외도로 인한 이혼위기의 부부상담: 사례연구

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국문초록

본 연구의 목적은 부부 외도상담에서 사례연구를 활용하여 상담과정과 상담에 도움을 주는 요인 및 장애요인을 알아보기 위한 것이다. 외도는 결혼한 부부들에게 심각한 결과를 가져오는 위기이며, 부부 및 가족상담자들에게 주의깊은 개입과 전문성을 요구하는 도전이 되지만 그 치료과정은 충분히 밝혀지지 않았다. 본 연구의 사례는 이혼 위기에 놓인 남편외도를 경험한 40대 부부를 대상으로 하였고, 전체 11회기의 상담으로 구성되었다. 보웬가족치료이론, 구조적 가족치료이론, 및 용서가 이론적 개념틀로 적용되었다. 이혼 위기에 처한 외도를 경험한 부부의 화해, 이해, 용서를 위한 치료적 개입들을 살펴보았다. 전체 상담과정을 3단계로 나누어 외도 부부상담을 성공적으로 이끌기 위해 각 단계에서 겪게 되는 어려움과 딜레마, 그리고 도움이 되는 요소들을 제시하였다. 분노, 불신, 동기수준, 수용, 공감, 및 용서를 포함하는 요소들이 파악되었으며, 외도로부터 치유를 촉진시키는 개입들과 요소들이 논의되었다. 또한 상담자들과 추후 연구를 위한 임상적 활용과 제안점들이 논의되었다.

영문초록

The purpose of this research was to explore the therapeutic processes of couples who experienced marital infidelity as well as factors that aid and pose challenges to the therapy by using a case study. Infidelity is a crisis with serious consequences for married couples. It is also a challenge for the counselors, requiring careful interventions and a high level of expertise. Yet, much of the therapeutic process has not been unveiled. Methods: The case used in this study was a married couple in their 40s at the risk of a divorce due to the husband's unfaithfulness. A total of eleven sessions of marital couple therapy were conducted. The therapy employed the Bowen family therapy, structural family therapy, and forgiveness as major theoretical frameworks. Results: Therapeutic interventions toward reconciliation, understanding, and forgiveness were examined. The study divided the entire therapy process into three stages, and suggested the struggles and dilemmas as well as facilitating factors?anger, distrust, motivation, acceptance, empathy, and forgiveness?experienced in each stage. Conclusions: Interventions and factors that facilitate healing are discussed. Clinical use and suggestions for practitioners and future researches are also discussed.

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외도 이혼 부부상담 및 치료 용서 사례연구 Marital infidelity divorce couple marital counseling and therapy forgiveness case study

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